I have been jotting down changes I have noticed since praying with my friend. Here are the lists:
I have been able to forgive my Dad for:
- Robbing me of my purity and innocence.
- Making himself my first love.
- Destroying the opportunity for my husband to be my first love.
- Destroying my ability to be truly intimate in all ways.
- Favoring my sister – after forgiving I was led to break my bondage to that family pattern both with my family of origin and with my existing family.
- Making me dependent on him in very unhealthy ways.
- Destroying my ability to be myself.
- Not being a man or father I could respect .
- Destroying my love for my name – hearing your father longingly murmuring your name from the darkness of his bedroom will do that…
- Not being the father I needed.
- Taking away my ability to experience God in the reality and truth of who He is as my Heavenly Father.
Fortunately, over the years God has been in the process of taking that which was intended for evil and working it for good as only He can. (Genesis 50:20, Romans 8:28-29) He has been healing me, and I have been growing into understanding and experiencing God and life as my Creator meant it to be. He has been bringing me out of the darkness created by my earthly father into the light that is my Heavenly Father. (Isaiah 9:2, Ephesians 5:8, Colossians 1:13)
Differences in the daily stuff:
- Physical therapy has revealed a great difference in my body. My muscles have become looser, more relaxed, and have responded more quickly to my therapist’s manipulation.
- The above discovery gave rise to the following question. Did the back pain I continued to feel following my last therapy session have more to do with our desk chair than abuse (oh, happy thought)? Since that consideration came to mind, we have bought a new chair and my back, shoulders and arms feel much better! (Wouldn’t you know that a cheaper chair is better for me physically than a big, fancy, mesh, more expensive chair…which we originally bought for my comfort while working on the computer…go figure…)
- I am feeling more love for Bmy husband and am relating to him more freely.
- My attitudes are more upbeat, and I am not as critical towards people and life in general.
- I am more deeply moved by both joy and sorrow, which to me means I am living more in the now rather than being controlled by the past.
- Here are a couple of things that occurred which were previously unheard of…one day I stayed in my pajamas until after lunch…I don’t know if I have ever done that…another day I slept so long I ate breakfast at noon.
- Writing has come more easily.
- I am calmer and more joyful and am definitely laughing more.
- A gear has shifted in my mind or a puzzle piece has fallen into place resulting in my perceiving the physical world in a slightly different way. Somehow things are a bit clearer, colors brighter and everything appears to be more intensely real.
Now I know there will always be things about me that will need to be changed, and there wil be more battles to be fought (at least until I get to heaven). Yet, I am so thankful for what my Lord has done now, and no matter what the future brings (figurative biting of the nails), I know He will work it for good in my life, to conform me to the image of His Son. So, onward and upward…or as the unicorn cried in C.S. Lewis’ book, The Last Battle, as he sprang forward into the beauty of New Narnia, “Come further up, come further in!”